A few days ago I was watching the movie, “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”. It’s one of my “go-to” movies when I want to veg-out on the couch. I feel like I can really relate to the main character on many levels. One way where we differ however is on the cousin count. She admits to having something like “27 first cousins” who are all overly involved in each other’s lives. My family tree is a little thinner than hers.
My mom has one younger biological brother, “O”. “O” died when I was in Jr. High. He was a very tortured person and ultimately committed suicide. Very sad. He was never married and never had any children. That meant that I had no cousins on my mom’s side.
My dad has two brothers, both younger than himself. My uncle”J” has two sons, “R” and “J” (not “jr”) but they weren’t very involved in their dad’s life since he divorced from their mother many years ago. My uncle, who suffered from alcoholism also died many years ago. The relationship with his children was so strained that they didn’t even know their father had died and missed the funeral because no one knew how to get ahold of them. I have never seen them since early childhood and have no idea how to get a hold of them.
My other uncle, “D”, is one of those “foot-loose and fancy-free types.” He has not married which means, although I have two cousins by blood somewhere in the world, I have never really experienced that type of relationship. I also, have never had an aunt. I suspect that this is not normal for most Mexicans.
Today, the poor, little, rich, white Mexican is SO WONDERFULLY BLESSED to have 3 nieces and two nephews (with one on the way) and I am fairly certain more will be coming in due time. Three of my munchkins live far away and I really struggle with not being regularly present in their lives. The other two are close and I have decided to make a conscious effort to be the auntie that I never had. Today, I am picking up my little buddies and taking them to T.O.T.’s. TOT’s is a bi-monthly hang out for little ones and their caretakers run by the children’s director at our church.This is a lot of work for me because I never had to take care of two little ones ~3 years and under~ and these days my own kids are pretty self-sufficient.
Recently my sister told me that her son had said that he wanted to go out on a date (he’s 3 years old) and when she asked him who he was going to go on a date with, he said “Auntie Sawah”…..precious.
As I age (gulp) I have come to appreciate, not only the “real” auntie relationships in my life but the others that may not be “Technically” real but are “practically” real. I have SO MANY women around me who act as older, influences….Pam, Ruth, Cara, Loretta, Ann, Barb, Kathy, Julie, Holli, Margaret, Judy, Becky, Anita, Sonia, Lisa, Myrtle, Teri, Jenny…..and so many others. Thank you so much for your love and example of Godliness.
I also want to be that kind of person for the special little ones in my life, “punky-poo,” and the SLEW of kiddos in my life group, my Kansas babies, and so many more. What a cool thing to receive so much love and have the opportunity to love so many.
This year I really want to be the best Auntie I can be (especially to MY LEGIT punk’ins who are not near to my body but near to my heart) and all the others who God puts in my life.
This January post is my pledge to really try to be better. Do you have a special “auntie” that needs to know you love them?