This morning, I was going through my sons folder checking on his homework and reading the weekly notes from the teacher when I came upon a message that read:
“Dear parents, if you want your child to bring valentines to school for the class,
please bring them on Friday, February 10th.
Do not make them out to specific friends but rather “to my friend.”
PLEASE DO NOT BRING SNACKS OF ANY KIND AS
WE WILL NOT BE HAVING A PARTY.”
When did the public school system become so anti-parties? Will someone please bring me a soapbox so the Poor, Little, Rich White Mexican can stand on it?!
When I was a kid, we worked hard on our class work, looking forward to the next party; Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine’s day, Easter and the end of the year. Occasionally birthday parties would pop up in between and parents could bring in cookies or cupcakes for the class and at some point during the day, we would break for a 10 to 15 minute celebration. It’s during those times that I was glad when some kid came from “money” because we all would benefit from it. I remember a few times when even my mom baked up cupcakes for my whole class. The entire day was filled with excitement, wondering when the teacher would break for my celebration. Even if goodies weren’t available, we would stop and sing “Happy Birthday” and the teacher would present a birthday gift (usually a book) and the kid got to open it in front of everyone.
My husband once told me about a richy-rich girl whose mother would bring in Baskin-Robbins ice cream cone clowns for the entire class! (awesome, huh?) Apparently this gal was in Josh’s class for several years and since she had a little crushy-crush on Josh, he always got the extra ice cream that was supposed to go to some kid who missed out by being absent. Sucker!
I promised myself that I would always make killer cupcakes or cookies for the class when my children became school aged. But Alas! This is not to be. Kids are not allowed to bring goodies in for their birthday. Some mother a few years ago decided to make a stink about childhood obesity or something like that and we all have to suffer.
OK. I begrudgingly support this decision since parents can try to outdo other parents and the whole system can get out of control. Heck, I might’ve turned out to be one of those jerky parents…and I suppose that 30 parties could increase a child’s likelihood to be a little husky. No birthday goodies – I get it. Now we are only allowed to bring school supplies as treats for the whole class. I buy black Ticonderoga pencils with neon erasers and hip grippers and tell the teacher, “Here’s Daniel’s birthday ‘cupcakes’’., but NO VALENTINES PARTY, this takes the proverbial “Cake!”
Really?!?! Bring the cards on the 10th (Which is a Friday) but we aren’t having a party? We can’t break for 30 minutes on a Friday to share the V-day love? Don’t even take the time to put kids names on them? Why bother? Personalizing them is part of the fun! The other part of the Valentine’s day fun is rushing home and analyzing each card to see who is secretly in love with you, or reading special hand written notes from your dearest friends.
Every single teacher and every single school board member and superintendent was once a chubby-fisted kid pouring gobs of glue and glitter on their valentines carriers. They ate heart shaped cookies and conversation heart candies. They lovingly licked 30 envelopes and gave the teacher the special teacher card that came in the packet…have they all forgotten? What a sad day.