My parents announced to my brother, my sister and me that they were getting divorced in the summer before my sophomore year of high school. Now, what I have learned about divorce is that it takes approximately six months from the time you file the papers until you are officially divorced. When the papers came in they indicated that my parent’s divorce was finalized on February 13. Yes, that is my birthday.
I have been accused of making things about me and I’m sure that is usually the case but doesn’t that sound unfair?! I mean, seriously, all parents try to do is convince their kids that separation was never their fault but then to see the papers showing your (the kid’s) birthday as the official divorce date?! – – that’s kind of messed up in my opinion. I realize it is no one’s fault but….still.
On August the 29th, 1993, J and I went out on our very first date. If you recall, in true “Sarah” fashion, I ended up asking him out. We went to Medieval Times. He had to drive because, of course, I didn’t have a license yet. I have always cherished the memory of our very first kiss at front of my door. It was right out of a romantic comedy. I won’t share the details because it would be a violation of a private moment between a boy and a girl but he knows exactly what I’m talking about.
After a few months of dinners and movies, I, being the control freak that I am, realized that we would not be able to celebrate our 6 month anniversary or “month-a-versary,” as we called it, because February ended on the 28th. The six month marker in a relationship is important when things are just starting out, right?! Together we made an executive decision to change the anniversary of our first date to August 28th. Silly, I know. Every year since then we have acknowledged August 28thas a day to celebrate the start of our family. . . or was that just me who cared about it?
(Sigh) today is August 28th. I am feeling pretty melancholy. Tomorrow is the actual anniversary of our first date. It will have been 19 years. . . . I don’t know why I get “superstitiousy” about dates but I have a sneaking suspicion our imminent divorce will be finalized on March 21st. It would have been our 16th wedding anniversary.
Can God work a miracle? ABSOLUTELY! YES! Of course He can! Will He work a miracle in our marriage? Well that has yet to be seen. Will He work a miracle any time soon? Well, I don’t know if time means very much to God. I just need to try and get out of time myself. Besides, I have no control over it anyway, right?